His Secret Obsession - Online Dating is Not a Contest
Hi James Bauer here.
Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female.
Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”.
This isn’t high school.
You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now.
Your attitude is the most important asset you have.
You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things
that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask?
That’s the age old question.
Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk.
There’s a big difference.
You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating
but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God
and have just fallen from the sky.
They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either.
They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator.
The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all.
They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head
and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either
or that you just don’t care what they said
or didn’t even hear what they said.
They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you
and they want you to think that they are interesting enough
to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won.
They don’t want to be a trophy.
They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.